#17: Tina Marie Speaks to Tech Startup CEO and Lawyer, Ramesh Reddy
Tina Marie Speaks to Tech Startup CEO and Lawyer, Ramesh Reddy
How you can win in life without planned out goals. We're going to get to talk about what it's like to be a new CEO tech startup at the age of 39 and how do you balance life or not even care about balancing life, but really get fulfillment and enjoyment out of it.
Hello, and welcome to the light, your life podcast. I'm your host, Tina Marie St.Cyr. And it's always great to be with you. We bring you the lives of people that are amazing and have come through their own trials and tribulations and challenges like all of us, and they share their advice and their stories so that you can learn how to surmount your own odds and take a bit of wisdom and apply it to your life today. So our guest today is a dear friend, and we've already started having some laughs before we even hit the record button. And so we said, let's hit the record button sooner. Now wants you to be able to meet [inaudible] as a tech startup CEO. He's also an actor, a musician, a landlord copywriter, and a lawyer that is right. I did say the L word there. He spent the last five years practicing personal injury law and is on a mission to double car accident settlements for the accident victims, by replacing lawyers with technology. You're hearing it here. First. He lives in new Orleans with his beautiful wife and Nico and their two beautiful little girls. And you get to put the wonderful wisdom of information in your ear right now. So we're going to just thank you so much for being our guest today on light your life.
Thanks for having me. That was a lovely intro. I couldn't have done it better myself.
It's going to be so much fun. In fact, today we are talking about how you can win in life without planned out goals.
Totally. Yes.
For those people that don't like project plans, the task list, the check marks, the things that you think that you're a responsible human being on the planet. You've got somebody on your side and roommate remains. Sure. We're going to get to talk about what it's like to be a new CEO tech startup at the age of 39. Talk about your startup. I can't wait to share this with everybody. And how do you balance life or not even care about balancing life, but really get fulfillment and enjoyment out of it. Cause you're a dad. You're an awesome husband. There's so many sides of your particular diamond.
Yeah. Well thanks so much. So in terms of the, the startup and really the name of the company is called [inaudible] and it is an AI driven app based service that allows people to manage their car accident claims directly from their smartphones. Throughout my practice of encountering a lot of clients, I, what I have noticed is that accident claim payouts are actually not as high as people think throwing like $15,000 on average. And, you know, as a lawyer, we take on a significant amount of risk. So we asked for, you know, a third of that claim, which could be upwards of $5,000. And I started thinking to myself, wow, you know, as I started doing, doing the work it just turns out that a lot of it is just like a checklist of items and that insurance companies are willing to pay.
Once you hit all the check, the check marks. And I figured, well, software is really good at, you know, showing, you know, showing people the way. And I truly fundamentally believe you just need a guide. You don't need a lawyer for accident claims. And so I decided to shift my practice shift away from practicing law full-time and start on this new business idea and venture at the ripe old age of 39 young tech startup guy. And hopefully, you know, inspire people through my success that you can reach for the stars, do the things that are passionate and meaningful to you despite being a husband, despite being a father, despite having varying interests. And I think that's kind of the crux of what I wanted. This is kind of a revelation that's been happening for me as I like realize that I am horrible at goal planning.
I'm horrible at meeting those goals. I have lots of trauma in my past that prevent me from like moving the needle in those ways. And I would shame myself for not meeting those goals. I wouldn't even write them down anymore. I was like, there's just no point. And I think that there's certain challenges associated with that, that we could talk about. But overall I think my new mindset strategy is like, move the needle, just move it a little bit, move it a little bit every day for years. And you got to take the long game on this, then the needle gets moved really far, you know? And so I think that's my new mantra every day. Just how can I move the needle just a little bit today?
There you go. And they say small changes over a period of time, equal big results. And that's sort of counter to some of what we may be seeing in the media at least, or social media about these tech startups that seem to bloom overnights, and then everybody's a billionaire. So whenever you decided to start a tech startup, did you have that mindset? You know, like how do I compete in a marketplace where everybody's vying for each other's investment dollars and how do I stay viable to a market and do it fast so that I become one of those. Was that ever in your life?
Yeah, no, I, I, it, it, it is always on my mind. I think that culturally speaking, we are in a place where moving fast and failing fast as part of the mantra of at least in the tech world, it's true for all industries. And I think that's, that's, that can be challenging when you're trying to start a new company. When you're trying to get investors on board, they want things on very quickly. And, and that pursuit of moving the needle might require revving it up at times and ways that, you know, you just can't really have a whole lot of control over because you're competing in a very competitive marketplace. I totally can relate to that entirely. So, yeah, it, it definitely has been on my mind. I definitely struggle with that notion. You do do move slowly and, and grow organically.
A lot of the tech startups that you've heard about, actually the ones that are becoming public companies today have been around for 10 years. And that's kind of like when a venture capitalist is thinking about the future of investment. I believe that they're not looking for returns in the next couple of years are looking for returns in five to 10 years. And if you're happy to be one of those companies that can grow incredibly quickly in those first few years are really lucky. Most, most other companies take some time to grow. So I'm okay with that.
And so tech companies like Uber, or, you know, name some that we may have thought since they're now an app on my phone, Oh, they be new. They actually had a long history prior to us ever in the marketplace, knowing that they were,
Yeah, completely Lyft is a good example. Cause I read their story and Lyft was a company that, you know, I had no idea that it started out as a very different service early on. And it, it took a long, it took a, it took several years before it kind of transformed and pivoted to the service that became, but originally it was like a, a service that I think it started in Ethica at Cornell. One of the founders was from there and he, they would just I think it had to do with some Chinatown buses and things like that, where you can move people quickly over for a small amount of a fee. And that was the original concept was like, how do we move college students from one place to like a major city? And you know, but that over time, eventually it became Lyft and those stories are, you know, replete in the whole tech world. So
I love that. And so let's go to your tech world and your tech world is the knowing, which I did not know that the average settlement, I guess you were saying it's 20,000 or less, as far as, you know, we hit each other and we meet new friends on the freeway, hopefully not injury each other too much, but those things are coming. I mean, it happens right. And we programmed, the emo is as soon as this happens, you know, we make a police report, we exchange each other's information. And then whenever it's something that is, you know, there's an injury involved or there's definite, you know, massive damages to the vehicle, we involve a lawyer to help us get more out of the claim. Then we would typically settle by ourselves with insurance. And so you're saying that that's a normal, like it's just a checkbox list of things that most people would have to go through and then you get a settlement, but the lawyers don't necessarily aren't necessarily needed in that transaction.
I think I think that there are kind of two boats there they're 85% of car accident claim settle for somewhere between 15 and $18,000, depending on the statistical year that you're choosing. There are over 6 million accidents a year. There are $5 million, 5 million accidents. And in property damage claims 1.8 million injuries from car accidents annually, there's over $200 billion in losses in the United States alone. So what happens is there's so much marketing put out there by personal injury lawyers who have the funds to do this. And these are just the few and far between ones. There are thousands of lawyers nationwide, a lot of small firm type stuff that do not advertise people like me, who really just didn't spend a lot on advertising, but the people you see on like Superbowl commercials, locally and TV and book stuff. Yeah, exactly. And so they educate the marketplace in a way that is very effective, which is let's do fear-based marketing make you think that the insurance company is this big, bad machine.
That's just trying to, you know, make more money for their shareholders and hold you down. Which to a certain extent, you know, the low payout of claims initially is, is indicative of that. So like, I don't think anyone me included like, Hey, insurance company, you're trying to help me out. I think we already culturally know that. But at the same time, like I don't, I don't think that the I think that the claims themselves usually end in, in the 15 to $18,000 range for most claims, not just not because people aren't badly injured or whatnot, because the level of minimum insurance that you have on your car accident on your car insurance nationwide is fairly low compared to the health costs associated with it. So like, you know, you're just not going to get a lot of payouts. And now the other side of that is like, as a consumer, you know, you're probably in one or two accidents your entire life, and you're busy with your life.
There's a lot of stuff happening and going on. So like you just don't really know how to go about taking care of this brand new thing. That's just happening to like drop in your lap, you know? No one's really happy about. And, and as I did the practice, what I noticed is that you would have like a paralegal, a legal assistant and a lawyer, and the paralegal and legal assistant would basically move the cases forward slowly. And they'd manage a hundred to 200 cases on the big firms. And the lawyer's involvement is very minimal as it relates to most of these smaller claims. Their big involvement is usually for the larger claims that might be a half a million and a million dollar claims, but it's like getting struck by lightning or winning the lottery. Those cases are so few and far between, but like the marketing that's pushed consistently is like this, Hey, you know, Jack got me, you know, a hundred thousand dollars or $500,000 or like strong arm, strong arm, the insurance company, and rains a million dollars out of them. That's just, you know, that's just not true for most claims. Yeah.
I understand that. And so is as with many things that are common in our world, things that we would take for granted, otherwise, including Uber or Lyft, you know, we used to call taxis for that whenever we needed it. And even such, you know, have a designated driver will, hello, Uber's that now? And so it's disruptive. So there's disruptive technology that is coming, becoming commonplace across the board. And you're seeing that this industry that's been there for a long time is now right
For disruption. It's my personal belief that it is. I think with the lawyers I talked to about it, they're like, there's no way that'll work. And look, I think just like anything, it takes time to figure out how to change the chess board that originally existed. And I think that through iterating the process, figuring out what is the user experience and, you know, for most consumers who are in a car accident, it's not only it's not only awful to have to deal with the insurance company. Usually they get signed up really quick with one of these law firms. They think they're going to talk to a lawyer most for most of the cases, they're really just talking to the paralegal and they're great. They're well-trained, but at the end of the day, the expectation of the flow of transparency and information is not being expressed at the get at the get-go.
And oftentimes at the end of it, they finally talked to her lawyer again, and he's got the settlement amount that is just not on par with what they were led to believe through the marketing. They thought they might get a million dollar case. And it turns out that they didn't, or they thought they would get, you know, $50,000 at the end because the lawyer takes a third doctors will take a third, you know, for the average case, you're getting five to 7,000. And I thought to myself, well, if I could build a company that at some point either, you know, at least initially might lower that fee 10 or 15%. And then over time can eventually double double that. What would that mean for the average person that would, you know, how many hours in a, in a week do they work to make an extra $5,000? I mean, that could be substantial for the bulk of people and in the U S it probably wouldn't work for people who have plenty of money cause they don't really care about that. They'd rather just hire their lawyer that they knew, but most people don't know lawyers. And they don't really trust them rightfully so. I think,
Yeah, it's a belief system in the marketplace. Definitely. And so you, you tapped into this, not only idea, but it was also a soul connection with you because you're that heart-based guy that says I want to do what's right. I want to return the money. It's almost like that. Robin hood effect I want to return the money to the people who were the victims of the accident, because that's where the money was initially meant to go,
Right? Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Energy in your life. Yeah. I mean, I think that like my, my brother died when I was 24, 24 years old, unexpectedly in a hospital as a result of medical negligence. And, you know, I didn't, I didn't really have plans on being a lawyer that just wasn't, wasn't really in my DNA. I was studying to go to med school decided to stop doing that because I just didn't want to be in hospitals and have to take care of sick people. Like my brother, something about that at that age, it seemed too much for me. And so I think my story into getting into practicing this area of law I think came from a hard play based place of understanding what it's like to feel like a victim and have zero power. And I think culturally, we're seeing this world is great, this huge disempowerment and disenfranchisement of the average person who just works and works and works and just does not see their asset class, that our asset base increase substantially over time.
There is no wealth increase. There's a huge division of, of division between the, the top 1% and the bottom 99%. So I think is incumbent upon people of privilege, in my opinion. And I believe I am one of them people who have been given opportunities that maybe others didn't have. And for me personally, obviously it struck an internal cord, but what I thought to myself, what can I do in my own life? Where do I have domain expertise that maybe I can move the needle a little bit in this direction to maybe affect a big change, like a butterfly effect. And I think that thinking is quite big. I'm not, I am a big thinker, but have never been a real, like great executer and, and have a ton of belief in myself. I think that's part of what the challenge can be. But at the same time, I, yeah, I think that for me, it, it, it, it creates a lot of energy when you're focusing on not necessarily a monetary outcome, even though that would be nice, but really how can we affect, how can we contribute and make change? For me, that's a driver, a driving force to want to do the work. And I think through the process, I'll derive a lot, you know, from that, right.
That makes sense. You serve a greater need in a larger environment or a larger audience, and there will be a monetary law of circulation come back to you to help benefit you for your idea and your work.
Right. You've
Tapped into something that I want to dive into a little bit more sure, because we are talking about how can you have a life that you feel like you're winning without an overall big plan, or at least it's not completely clear. Right. And you tapped into the self doubt piece. And so could you tell me about that transformation of yourself of any type of self-doubt and what have you learned to help surmount that?
Yeah, I think you know, we have talked about, and you've, you've taught about sabotage your that part of your inner mind that, you know, is feeding you the lies and narratives that keep you safe. It's a fear based narrative that, you know, instinctually evolutionarily, we have been designed to fear our outside world and we it's, we have to overcome that somehow, or, you know, suffer the consequences of, of living a life. That's not our fullest. I, you know, I, I think that, I don't know that I'll ever overcome self doubt. I don't, I think I used to think that that was the thing I needed to do. And that again became a point of self-flagellation where I was just like shaming myself for not being able to be this thing. This person, you know, Tony Robbins who I used to follow quite a bit.
And again, I, I think that it's a process I think through, you know, and I, I advocate for mental health. I go to my own therapist. I, I fundamentally believe that through that process, I have discovered that there is a, this is a lifelong process, you know, like you just don't overcome self. I was talking to a buddy of mine who, you know, his company is worth a hundred million dollars plus, and I was asking us for some advice about how to raise money and what his thoughts are. Should I take venture cap? Should I just try and bootstrap I'm like, did you, you know, and he raised a very large round recently, I think a series B or C and the multiple millions and it's and you know, he, he, he told me, I'm like, Hey, do you doubt yourself ever? And he's like, dude, all the time, you know, like it's not ever a situation where even at that level where he's had ultimate confidence in what he's doing, that he doesn't doubt himself. I think that's okay. Doubt is part of the process. But I think with that, you have to balance that narrative with like, okay, what can I do today to move the needle a little bit further? And I, I think through the constant ritualistic practice of doing at least one or two, I know Tony Robins talks about his top three things in the day that he does that, that actually really works to, to counter balancing that, that negative voice that comes up. Yeah, yeah.
Robbins, you know, one of my mentors as well, and he there's certain things that just are now programmed in my own mind is progress equals happiness. And so wherever I can find progress and actually take it in, because I think we're also conditioned to not look at where we are making progress and stand upon it. It's almost like we're anti celebration, anti self-recognition and I've had to learn to say, no, I'm doing good. And yes, this is progress. And yay me, as opposed to just always forcing the next thing. And it's not good enough. Have you ever had that understanding for yourself that the not good enough as I call it, the virus gets in there and doesn't allow you to even celebrate the progress you've made?
Yeah. I think it's also a really interesting thing that is, I want to say shared universally amongst all, all of us, right. And this is something that in therapy too, you know, we go to our therapist with our problems. And then when, when we resolve our problem in this one area, and I was saying this to story the other day, I was like, Hey, you know, this, this is all good, good and good. Now now moving on to this other problem, there is a problem we don't, we don't really stop and celebrate, you know, we don't, we don't take those moments as much. We go to, you know, I, for some reason in my head popping up right now is my graduation from college. You know, those ceremonies are actually really important besides the sometimes bad speakers that speak. But like that moment of like celebration is something that I think, you know, that's gratitude and that's something that I feel like we, and me I include myself in this just do not spend enough time in in our lives and takes active focus to do that. And it's, it's equally, it's super important to do that. I don't do it enough. I think I need to do it more because you're right. I think that virus part does spread very, very much so. Yeah,
Not good enough has got so much gravity to it, you know, like a black hole of gravity.
And
So let's talk about the other aspects of your life, because what I love in your bio in the intro is that there are so many facets to your life. And sometimes, you know, culturally, we keep stepping back into this cultural meme or thought form is that it wants to have us, you know, you need to focus on one thing or you need to finish what you started again. So there's so many things there that would prove to us that we can't have this full, robust you know live life with so many things going on. So you're a CEO, we know this of a tech startup in Julie. Awesome. And way to go. I can't wait to use the app. Hopefully I'll never need to use the app, but if I'm totally going to be using it, a musician which I recently saw one of your tech talks, and I even comment on the tech talk, I'm like, dude, you've been holding out on me.
Yeah, you do. You do impressions. Well, that vibe, that, that particular tick-tock called for passing the phone over to a solo. I saw, I saw one actor do it like for other celebrities and like, Oh, that's cool. I've done some other celebrity stuff. Why don't I just try it? And like, I have not been a social media person ever. I just, but I w I got, I was talking to a different friend the other day and he's like, look, you need to, you just need to be on social. That's where the eyeballs are. Like, if you're trying to sell your company you just need to, you need to be on social. So that's what actually prompted me to start. And the most organic growth you're going to get right now from people looking at videos is going to be on Tik TOK, even though you might think it's for like this younger generation, trust me, everyone's on there right now. And it's, it's just a great way to like, you know, on YouTube, I'd probably get three views on Tik TOK. I'll get 500 to 600 views. And that's why I started doing Tik TOK. Yeah.
It's so much time, one sec. And I have to, I try to tell myself it's wasted time, but I enjoy every bit of it. And you can quickly go through the things you don't like get to. That's also true. Right. Which I love. And would you mind doing an impression for it
Putting you on the spot? Oh my goodness. I wasn't expecting that. I wouldn't consider myself an impression guy did some voices. I had my guitar that was helpful. I D yeah, I did a Jack Nicholson. It's terrible. You're gonna make me do this right now to, you know, trying to think your Jack Nicholson. One's good though. But see, it's only good when I'm like, I eat breakfast 300 yards away from 4,000 Cubans trained to kill me, man. I I'll have to think about it. Maybe we'll circle back. I think he did a Bob Dylan. Yeah. I did a little bit easier. I don't know when he talks like this, but he's the only things there's this whole, like Tom petty, Bob Dylan idea I've had. Cause like they sound so I think it's actually out there
Around each other, by the way, like Tom petty grew up under the shadow and with Vonda.
Oh really? Yeah. We influenced them a little bit, you know, I don't know if that's a speaking voice is certainly their singing voice.
They needed inter entirely for that. Right. Yeah. And so what's your vision for injury whenever the, the world adopts that and catches on, because it does take education of your, if your demographic and of your audience that needs the service, right? What's your vision?
My vision is that for every aspect of personal injury law, or any other areas of law where this checklist concept can come into play, that you, that a user can utilize this service in order to get transparency, get peace of mind, get more money in their pockets like technology. And my fundamental belief is like, it needs to make the process better and significantly. So in a way that that totally transforms the way certain businesses in the past had been practiced. I still think there is an absolute need for attorneys. I think there's an absolute need for trial lawyers. And I think that certain parts of their business though are, have been priced in a way that is that way because it's been protected for so long. And I think that technology is really good at trying to disrupt those areas in order to what benefit it's the democratization of things.
And I think that it's important. Like my vision is that this company, at least initially and eventually like reduces the costs associated with, with certain legal services in particular to start out with personal injury. Just because I know for a fact that people could do it, it's not it, they can be empowered to do it. And why not? If, if it means that like you, your paycheck for the year, it goes up 10% because the lawyer didn't get that money. You know, it's, it just seems like this is not rocket science. So like, why not?
And it's the right time. We are at a time where AI is now being used. And some people will say AI is basically an enemy, right? That AI we're becoming the matrix or we're becoming Terminator or different things, you know, that, that resistance to utilizing technology, to benefit human life. And yet whenever we open our eyes, we're going to see that it's everywhere. And the truth is we're not becoming dependent on it. We're, we're partnering with AI. And as I'm hearing what you're saying, I had a picture of, you know, surgeons that whenever, you know, years and years ago, all surgeries took place with a human operating on another human. And now it's very common to have robots and AI doing the smaller procedures that can be very well done, precisely with a robot, as opposed to human hand. And surgeons appreciate that because surgeons do not necessarily want to do the smaller cases. The more, you know, you skate the rote, you know, type of cases that are there, although they're still necessary. So is there a possible evolution of law and itself and the legal role in humanity to possibly elevate humanity? Because now the smaller more, I don't want to use the word mundane because it sounds right, but they're, they're the more rote type of cases are now being handled by technology, which gives lawyers the chance to do something more
Beneficial. Yeah. And, you know, I think I, yes, to answer your question, I think, I think that technology can and will, and does, and has been shown to, in my opinion benefit especially, you know, in, in the law, sorry, Tina, I have to plug my computer in here.
Yes. Plug your computer
In the law side, that technology has helped to there.
Yeah. I mean, I think that,
I think, I think it, the, the aversion to this elevation, like I when you say elevate humanity, what do I think about, I think that people who are naysayers might think that, well, you know, how are you elevating humanity if you're losing, if people are losing jobs. And I think a lot of it's fear-based right. It's kind of like coal miners who are afraid of, you know, who just want to keep the coal industry going because they need to put food on their table. And they don't know another industry to work in, and they've been doing it for 30 years. It's coming for everyone, you know, and now it's coming to the more higher end quote, unquote higher end jobs of, of law and doctors. I don't, I think our resources as, as like the human, the human, like all of us together, not just, I think like humanity needs to allocate resources better to those areas that are going to be beneficial in the aggregate.
Like for everybody, I personally think there are too many personal injury lawyers out there. I think there's too many pre what we call pre-litigation personal injury lawyers, people that just get cases go and settle them quickly pay have to pay their operational costs. They might not be paying, getting the best settlements for their clients. You know, I think there's a lot of that happening. And I think any area that can be checklisted that technology can, can dip into would allow for, again, it's a mindset thing, right? Like the factory worker that loses their job, if that's their focus, then technology sucks and humanity is not elevated. But if that factory workers like, well, I really want it to be a writer or I really want it to do this other thing. Now here's my opportunity to do that. And, you know, I think there's a lot of fear there.
And I think government personally, I think governments need to step in to help retrain people, or it needs to be some programs to help with that. I think there is some problems in our, in our society, in America with, with how it's in terms of how capitalistic it can be and how little is put towards the retraining of people. I think if there was a systematized way to retrain people into new positions that don't, that technology does not fit in then yeah. That's, I think that's amazing, but I think people don't trust that that is there because frankly it's not. So yeah, sure. Yeah.
What I love is that we are in a country that when we gather, and we can have a common voice toward a need and we can become a unified power towards something, change can happen. We do live in a world where it's easy to complain and not take action. So what I love about you is that you've seen the vision you've, you've followed that seed of inspiration and you're pulling those things around you that are needed to make it happen as you witness it. And so the whole theme of today is understanding how to win in life without planned out goals. So it's going toward that, as you said, you know, moving the needle forward each day so that you can reach those outcomes.
Yeah. And I think we, we didn't really dive into the fact that I have multiple interests and multiple things that pull me in multiple directions and the thought process to use that I have followed or the things that I've been coached in on in terms of like online stuff has always been like, you know, focused on this one thing and you could, you can go so much further, but that's boring to me. Like, I, this is not me. And I have so many different interests. I, you know, I remember in high school or something, I wrote a paper about the Renaissance man. There was this concept of the Renaissance man. The Renaissance man was like someone, you know, they, they have this thing like Jack of all trades master of none, we've had these things, but like we also had the Renaissance man who was, you know, in, in various different areas of interest can one, you know, exert influence.
And I think that, you know, that's a balanced life for me. Like I love being a dad. I love being a husband. I love starting and working on new ideas. I love tapping into my artistry as a human, which I believe we all fundamentally how, but kind of put away because there's no generalized monetary reward for it. Like there's so many areas of life that are fascinating and interesting, and I encourage everyone to pursue them simultaneously and look like at the end of the day, I guess it just depends on the type of person you are and what drives you in life? I think for me, there's just a curiosity in so many different areas that I want to, I don't have to Excel in all of them, but I like to participate in all of them.
And it comes down to whenever you put your head on the pillow at night, do you,
Right? Yeah.
You've got to build and you did a good day, right. There will be that time where we put our head on the pillow and it'll be the last
We do that day in this life. Yes, for sure. And then we get to look back and go, did I do well, like overall?
And I'm one of you remain. I am. So people ask me, they go, how do you have the time to do everything you do? And I don't look at it from that perspective at all. You know, I, you know, I just love life and I love the richest of life right now. I'm taking Spanish lessons. I'm learning how to hip hop, literally. Yeah. It's more hop than it is hip, but I'm taking these dance lessons and it's so fun. You know, my, my arts, my drawings my writing, writing a book I've got this wonderful podcast, I'm running a company, two companies. And and so I think it's our perspective. Don't you? I mean, if I were to wake up at the beginning of the day and have the perspective of, Oh my God, I don't know how I'm going to get everything done that I need to do. I'm already like behind because I'm just rushing and not knowing how I'm going to do it. However, if I meet the day with amazing energy, no matter what comes, you know, my perspective is like, let's do this game. Okay.
Clearly you're absolutely right. Yeah. I think it does require a certain amount of, and this is where I kind of have a hard time sometimes in the morning is like I haven't set myself up for today to be like a day that I could feel productive. Like I'm find myself scrambling at times to be like, what do I do now? What do I do next? I find in the most efficient days, mean the days that like, I get the most value out of I put my head on the pillow and like, yeah, today I felt like a really good day. Why like upon reflection? Oh yeah. You actually did put in a little bit of time the night before to set up those three things that if he did those today, no matter all the things on your checklist, you actually feel accomplished in that, in that regard. And I think in talking to you and having our conversations, you know, you talk a lot about energizing, like stuff that energizes you. And that's not to say like there's stuff throughout the day that doesn't energize you, that you can't work on it. You kind of have to as part of just participating in whatever work you're working on. But but I think you're right. I think at least having one or two things that energize you as part of your day really can carry it forward.
Yeah. There was something I learned about Elon Musk here recently. I was I like LinkedIn. It's actually my favorite social media platform because I read a lot and there was this article that passed through and I clicked on it and read it. And it was about Elon. Musk's awkward, silent moments.
And I'm like, I have those, I have awkward silent moments. And those are the times where in the middle of the day or in a meeting or in a conversation, if the thoughts aren't coming through and there isn't any next step, like somebody may ask a question on me and I don't have the answer, or we've reached an impasse of the conversation and it doesn't organically have any energy to move forward in a particular direction. I simply go quiet and I'll be quiet. And I'll be thinking, and people will know that sometimes I'll say I'm thinking most of the time, my team knows she's thinking. And in this article with, with Elan, he said, they said that 15 minutes can go by. They're all just sitting around, watching him think mine does not go 15 minutes, but it comes back to this time. You're saying, okay, I can plan the night before.
Yes, it optimally. If we will go with the plan, of course. However, what if during the day we don't have a plan and would just sit with ourselves. And some still is. I have a meditation pillow down here for those that are watching the video, I'm putting up a meditation pillow. So I have this little pillow and people always ask, why do you have the pillow? Just because when I lose thoughts, if I can't decide which way to go, or it feels anxious making like I'm supposed to be, Oh my God, what am I supposed to be doing? If I've got an exciting? And so, so I sit on that pillow and I wait until I find the calmness and the direction, cause it's going to have energy and will have that. And I was like, okay, no, no, that's what I'm going to do. And recently, since I read that article, I've been thinking, I wonder if the lawn does this, I don't have a decision yet. I'm going to find the decision it's going to find me.
I, you know, I was reading that in the, the minute I, I started reading that. I started thinking about Glennon Doyle, who my wife gave me the book on team to read and she had read it. And I was like, okay, I'll read this book. And she also had a very similar thing where, you know, finding her true North from her center, from her soul, from her heart, it seemed like that was a challenge for her as she started to become more and more popular as she started to build a team around her. And she realized that the decision making process that she needed to make was one where she needed to take a moment. So she would like eat, like sit in the meeting. And the, and like someone asked her a question and everyone would have different opinions about it. And in the past she would just go with one of those people. And I could totally relate to that because look that offloads any responsibility that you might have despite the resentment that you're going to have later on when something doesn't work out with you, but guess what? You didn't make that choice for yourself. Someone else made that choice. And you're like, yeah, I'm going to agree with you because I'm too afraid to go inside and make a choice. That's true to me and present and not
Sure to make a decision for yourself.
Yeah. You know, and I think, and then, so for her, that, that was also the thing where she would then I think she had her quiet place and it started doing meditation in the closet. Cause she had a couple of kids or whatever, and like just needed space. And that was her quiet time. And then she would transfer that time and to meetings like Elon does, I guess, to just, if someone asks a question, she needs to make a decision, she closes her eyes and then goes inside. And it's interesting. I think the therapy, I learned this, that little voice that like spouts out this little inner monologue, we all have going on that. We kind of silence at times and then voice out at times I started like looking into that more. So like when someone says something in therapy, a common thing to say is like, what's coming up for me is, and I did what they call emotionally focused therapy. It's theirs, it's a different type of therapy modality, but like what's coming up for me is this and I would hesitate initially. And then I would just be like, okay, this is what's coming for me. And I've, I believe that is your inner voice. You know, that is the thing that like, that image came up for a reason that that word came up for a reason, like explore that. And yeah, I, I th I believe that.
And so without planned out goals equals having some stillness moments that allow yourself to not have the planet goals when it does. Yeah.
Right. Yeah. No, and I think that's the thing I think like you can plan your day. Sure. But you know, there's going to be a lot of things that happen throughout your day that are unplanned. And I guess in the business world, we call it business agility. Like just having, just being agile enough is, is to be flexible enough to know, you know, what w maybe what to do next, or maybe not what to do next, but, you know, think about it and move, move forward from there from a true center.
I think we'd have a lot less resentment and blame and totally excuses if we came from that place. Right.
Yeah. Awesome.
How can they find your startup? I know it's, it's coming about, and you're even asking for some participation for people to be, I guess, for lack of a better term, Guinea pigs, or a focus with members and this, what would you love people to go find out more about us?
If you go to www dot injure early that's like injury with an L I N J U R L y.co my company in julie.co. There's a page there, it gives you information about what, what the service is, what it provides, what I, what we're trying to do, what our vision is. There'll be a little video of me kind of explaining all of that. You could fill in the contact information there, and yeah, I'm, I'm, I'm interested in knowing what the user experience is. If, if anyone's been in a, in a car accident and wants to talk about it and has thoughts about it, you know, was just go fill out a form for me. You're not going to go on any email list or anything like that. I'll just go right to my email. And I'll email you back. And I'd love to know about what your experiences and you could participate in building a brand new revolutionary product that I believe will transform the personal injury industry forever and for the better and it should come from the users and kind of how, how their experience was to inform all of that.
Yeah,
Definitely help out a remake, Mr. Remesh ready and go over to injure lee.co and participate because you're going to be in that very foundational beginnings. Yeah.
Oh, you can also text me at (504) 684-5455. That's (504) 684-5455. And just shoot me a text and we can do it that way too.
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