PAIN IS A FAITHFUL TEACHER
Sometimes I think of myself as smart. Sometimes, unconsciously, I even think I am smarter than the invisible substance weaving itself through our lives and guiding our destiny.
That’s when I get into trouble.
It seems all too easy for the lower mind to try and convince of what is right, wrong, half full or half empty. The lower mind is concerned with certainty, safety, low risk, and ego, which in cases where it is allowed to run rampant, produces a rollercoaster life of ups and downs.
I formula I ask our clients to perceive through is “Certainty = Safe, Safe = Stuck”
If we are focused on certainty and energizing that story, then the results we will create will be temporary and lead to another twist and turn on your rollercoaster life.
Pain is the guidepost for our evolution. When it is present physically, mentally, or emotionally, we each get a choice. We can wallow or grow. Pain will always be with us so learning how to have it help us grow and evolve is truly the path to self-actualization.
Being honest and humble with ourselves begins a huge shift to using your higher mind and taming the draining energies of the lower mind.
Do we form an energized story around the pain?
Do we tell that sad story to others in order to find some assemblance of connection.
Do we wallow in the pain of our lives, hoping it will pass, hoping someone will rescue us?
In studying human behavior for over 25 years now, one thing I have noticed is that those who are not ready to gain the lessons from the pain in their lives will distract themselves in a variety of ways where the ultimate outcome is ignoring, masking, tolerating the painful story in our lives.
Behaviors that include excessive use of alcohol, drug use, allowing abuse, abusing others, abusing oneself with blaming derogatory remarks, distracting themselves by staying too busy, never finishing and always starting, among others will keep the lower mind in control.
As long as we avoid, ignore, distract, and justify the pain in our lives, the longer the lower mind will have a grip on our thinking and keep us safely away from the beauty of our lives, the wisdom it is teaching us and ultimately away from our own self love.
In the state of pain, without new strategies to overcome past patterns, we will unconsciously seek out more anymore experiences that justify our painful outlook.
Yes Pain is a faithful teacher. When we notice and become fully aware of the pains in our lives we begin to grow, become wise and stop ill patterns of telling the sad story.
Essentially we put on our Big Girl or Big Guy undies. No more looking for someone to rescue us, give us the answers we cannot decide on by ourselves, and definitely no more recruiting people into our sad story.
What sad stories do you keep alive in your mind and in your conversations?
Are you aware of the pain it is causing in your life?
Are you aware of how your painful stories have all who would truly love you leave you?
My momma told me long ago, if you are judging others there are three fingers aiming back at you. We judge ourselves 100% more than others do.
To allow Pain to transform you life and allow a richness of freedom and inner peace, follow these steps:
Acknowledge the painful stories you are telling yourself. ( look at all areas of your life )
Check in and ask “what emotions do I feel when I am in my pain and keeping the pain alive.”
Re-write the sad stories in your mind by counting all the blessings that painful moment brought with it ( trust me there will be gifts in the pain.)
Begin to tell yourself the new stories and knowing that you are strong, capable and wise.
Breathe in deeply and remember you have a partner in the invisible substance (your God, your higher power).
Watch the energy shift around you and definitely inside of you.
Count your blessings multiple times a day.
I guarantee your life will move from one that feels draining to one of full energy richness and joy.
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